Self-love. The importance of it has become more and more necessary in this day and age. In my own short and not as experienced life, I find that people of my generation (in general) are just too stressed, too worried, always thinking about the next step, and never satisfied.
I find myself being a victim of this from time to time as well. Why is that? Why are we SO just..worried!? This life is too short to spend all your energy in worrying about it.
As I type this, i’m sitting at my local Barnes & Nobles sipping the new Starbucks drink – Chile Mocha. Not the best drink btw, it’s not that appetizing at all, I wouldn’t recommend it. Oh well, I shall drink anyways since I paid for it.
Anyways, what am I doing on a Sunday afternoon at a B&N? Nothing specific. I decided to just leave home and spend a few hours here, because I want to. I brought my laptop and my current read, and those are the two things I just intend to do here.
I’m someone who sets up odd boundaries for myself, to keep myself on the ‘path’. Recently i’ve decided to just let loose a little bit because WHAT IS THE POINT of creating all these rules for yourself all the time! I mean yes, if you are young & in school, then i 100% think you need to make sure you do your work before you have fun.
But if you’re in your early 20’s, and you’re a Type A personality like me, perhaps you can relate. So in the past month, i’ve decided to make some changes in my life to just enjoy it more and stress less. What changes have I made?
- I began to watch some Netflix for fun/as a means to relax. The ridiculous rule i had for myself before was that I wouldn’t watch/use Netflix while in school, because it would be too distracting. But my BFF got a free month subscription and shared the login info with me, and i thought to myself, WHY NOT?! What is now stopping me in life? Work and school? I decided to binge watch House of Cards (FRIKIN LOVE THIS SHOW BTW) and am halfway through season 2 currently — NO spoilers please! Let me know if you do watch this show though btw! And has this hindered my school work or work life? Not at all. I think i’ve trained myself so well that i know my limits and when to stop, when i know there is work to be done.
- Read. i’ve always been a reader my whole life, for fun. I’ve been up and down in the past few years because i only read books when i find or hear about something interesting. Currently reading : Me Before You , will definitely want to watch the movie once i’m done. Anyways, I want to try to continuously read after i finish this book. Reading back to back will help me relax and keep me away for boredom for some time.
- Attempting to not over-thinking/overanalyze everything, and sometimes just DOING. The hardest thing basically for me to do in life. I’m so over this annoying part of my personality. I need to work to make the right changes before it literally kills me or ruins my life. Over the years, from my teen-hood to now, this has grown and grown into my personality. I’ve been the type to think & care too much about what others think of me, but this specific thing about me has definitely gone down. The part that won’t leave me is just overanalyzing situations. Sometimes I think and think so much about what to do in a particular situation, that i just never even end up acting upon it. And i regret it later. It’s hard to explain, but it’s just so stupid of me. I’m really trying to act more and think less (obviously in the right situations), and trying to like take every opportunity that comes my way.
- Blogging. If you’ve been following me for some time, you may have realized that my posts used to be so consistent (1/week), and in the past month that has declined. I’m making no excuses for this besides saying just this: i was travelling for two weekends of August-September and between the MADNESS at work, I just had no time nor any inspiration to write. This is the first time in the year & half that i’ve been blogging, that i took such a break without any notice. Now the Type A in me was silently freaking out, BUT i didn’t let it eat me as it would have up until a few months ago. I’ve always let my blog be my creative outlet and a way for me to relax, so i didn’t want to punish myself for not having the time or the inspo to write. But I do want to get back in the swing of things now. P.S. Please leave topics, things you’d like to see on the blog, and any topics of blog posts I can do, i’m really excited to see what you guys would like to see, and need some inspo, SO PLEASE LET ME KNOW IN THE COMMENTS!
Self-love and realizing that you deserve time to relax and recoup your brain, is SO important. I wish it hadn’t taken me this long to realize that i need to do this, and i wish i had realized this years ago. So if you’re a youngin’ out there reading this, i’m speaking to YOU!
Take it from someone who basically never gave time to herself to ‘have fun’ unless basically forced to; don’t do it. You will gain nothing from it. Realize your priorities but make time for fun and relaxing your mind. We all just get wrapped up in life, school, doing things that will help your ‘future’, without realizing how negative your present may be. It’s so important to step back and just give yourself some time to do nothing or relax.
Find what works best for you, find a hobby, a passion, something you’ve been wanting to try but just haven’t had the time, money, or desire to do so; JUST DO IT! Everyone needs to be able to have an ‘escape’, something to call their own and something to do when the world around them is falling down.
Alright, my mocha is done, time for me to go! I hope to turn this random self love time, into a daily thing! Next month i might try a different drink though 😉
Not sure if this post makes any sense or not, i think i went off on a bit of a rant, but I wanted to keep writing without over thinking 😉
I hope this is relatable and maybe even helpful for some of you, I’d love to know what you think! Also let me know what kind of posts you’d like me to do in the next few weeks!
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Until next time, XOXO
Awww, I love the specific changes you shared. Thanks for dropping by my blog! I most certainly had to drop by yours!
This was such a great post, F! I could relate so much! I only recently realised the importance of unplugging mentally – not constantly worrying about things even during my me time. I have some rituals that I do now just to unwind and make time just for myself whilst gently nudging away stressful thoughts. Eid Moobarak, btw! I’d love to see your outfit, hehe! Hope you’re doing great and all’s well, missed seeing your posts on my feed <3
Thank you so much<3 It's great to realize it and take control of situation, i feel like we only realize this as we grow up 😉 i'd love to hear some of your rituals to unwind and make time for yourself, if u do a blog post on it or something! 🙂 Khair mubarak! This Eid wasn't that eventful, so no good pics unfortunately, hope yours was good! Thanks so much! IA hope to be back with my weekly posts now!
I love the bit about the Starbucks drink 😂 If you find out the secret behind minimising how much time you spend worrying- help a sister out #leSigh 😩
A fun read for sure !! Looks super good
Much Love, Rahma
It’s been difficult for me to allow myself to do the things I enjoy doing without feeling guilty. Why do we do that? If we just do things we HAVE to do all our happiness will slowly fade away! People wonder why they aren’t happy and I truly believe it’s because they just don’t DO anything that makes them happy anymore. It’s so important to let your mind rest and to just BE in the moment. Good post!
100% agree, So much happiness can be found in the smallest things, if only people sought to find those things and actually did them! Well said! 🙂
hey! lovely blog! got me craving for coffee and some ME-time!
Such a good post! Really helped me to cheer up without feeling guilty of having ‘me time’ xo
Yes! This blog spoke directly to me!